Question for Sexologists

Hi man! I’m Dr. Stephen de Wit and I’m a sexologist and we’re busting myths or questions around sex.

One piece of advice that I as a sexologist have for you: keep the accountant out of the bedroom. “Stephen, what are you talking about?”

We are obsessed with numbers. How often are we having sex? How long are we having sex for? How many orgasms are we having? How many orgasms are our partners having?

We’re so focused on the numbers around sex, we forget about the connection, the fun, the pleasure and the play. We’ve been taught somewhere along the way that more sex was bettter. We’ve been taught that if we have sex for longer, if we have more orgasms or we quote on quote “give our partners more orgasms”, that makes us better lovers.

I’d encourage you to look at that and ask yourself: “what works for me right now? What do I feel like? What does my partner feel like?” Create something from there rather than putting pressure on yourself to be able to perform. Your inner accountant needs to mind its own business and let you do your thing.

Even today, lot of people even in the urban cities get little information about sex growing up—and few get much information about it from their parents. Add to this the massive amount of misinformation and confusion out there—both in pop culture and on the web—and you’ve got a recipe for low sexual satisfaction. We, at ON MEN, aim to provide everyone with the facts about sexual health and rights, and in-depth advice for making those important decisions. ONMEN is one of those spaces where you feel the most comfortable, you get the best information and you have the opportunity to transform your sex life. We make sure of it. E So if you have any more questions or you want to know any more just Read Here