Myth #5: Your Penis is Most Powerful Sex Organ

Hi men, my name is Dr. Stephen de Wit and I’m a sexologist. Today we’re going to be busting some sex myths. So I have a question for you. What is the biggest and most powerful sex organ that you have? Is it penis?

No, it’s not that. The largest sex organ that you posses and quite frankly that your partner possesses is skin. So I encourage you to explore, touch, caresses, pressure, maybe some impact play, cause that is the largest sex organ that you have to work with and the most powerful, it’s your brain. How you think about sex, the ability that you can create fantasies, build things in your brain and then want to explore and connect with your partner that way.

It’s really powerful and can be really fun and positive but on the other side, it can be negative. Any kind of guilt, shame and fear that you carry around with you about sex or sexuality, that can actually bring you down. So again, it’s not what you thought, the biggest and most powerful. It’s your skin and your brain. So that’s another myth busted. Join me next time where we take on another one.

So how important is penis size after all? A study shows penis size does not matter for a woman’s happiness. The real question is, what do women want? Well, the answer is “chemistry” which science has yet to determine how to measure. It doesn’t seem to affect a woman’s happiness, but women are attracted to certain traits, like a nice smile and caring demeanor. You’re probably familiar with the fact that women like men with a nice smile and caring demeanor, but what you may not know is that there’s no relationship between penis size and a man’s personality.

If you really want to make a woman happy, forget all this penis size nonsense. She wants chemistry and love! She will love you big or small as long as you are smart, kind, and interesting—a rare combination for most men. Get to know her. Learn about her passions, hobbies, and interests. Take a walk on the beach and talk up a storm discussing philosophy or quantum physics, or find out what makes her throw back her head and laugh until her throat goes raw. Focus your attention on what’s going on inside her head and heart rather than what is going on between your legs. Stay focused on making her happy—not on proving anything to your penis.